One of the questions I hear most often from women in the second half of life is, “How do I find my purpose?” It was my question for years, especially after I stepped away from my profession and found time to sit with myself.
This profound quest doesn’t always arise because life has gone wrong. More often, something deep within us is awakening — a recognition that we have been living primarily from conditioning rather than choice.
When we explore the Queen archetype in the Rewiring Workshops, we learn that this archetype emerges at precisely this moment – when we have that recognition. She is not interested in becoming more successful or more admired. She is interested in becoming more fully herself. The second half of life isn’t about accumulation — it’s about integration. Gathering all the pieces of ourselves that have been scattered along the way, and bringing them home.
Purpose is revealed as we remove the layers that have obscured it. Purpose is not something we find the way we find a new job or hobby. It is both the walking and the path — a journey to realign ourselves with the creative process of being alive, learning to listen to ourselves with a clear and open heart.
The journey is less about becoming someone new and more about remembering who we have always been. That requires courage, because it asks us to examine the assumptions that have guided our lives.
And so we sit quietly together and reflect on these questions:
- Where and when are you your very best self?
- What truly matters to you now — what’s deeply meaningful and inspiring?
- What are you called to contribute to in the world?
- What gifts may you have neglected or hidden, because of your condtioning or programming?
- What desires continue to knock at the door of your heart?
- What wants to emerge through you during this season of life?
These are not questions the mind can answer quickly. They require listening.
The Queen listens to her longings. To what brings her alive. To the wisdom gained through both joy and disappointment. To the quiet voice beneath the noise of obligation and expectation.
Purpose rarely arrives as a lightning bolt. More often it reveals itself through small invitations — a class we feel drawn to take, a conversation that lingers, a creative impulse, a desire to serve, and from asking yourself the Big Questions.
Many of us have spent years listening outward rather than inward — so very skilled at discerning what others need while losing touch with what our own souls are asking. The Queen invites us to reverse that pattern. Not out of selfishness, but out of sovereignty.
As we grow older, purpose has less to do with achievement and more to do with expression. The question shifts from “What should I do?” to “What is seeking expression through me?” There is no single blueprint. Each Queen carries her own medicine.
Purpose is not a destination. It is a relationship we cultivate with our deepest self — one that evolves as we evolve.
The great gift of the second half of life is the opportunity to choose consciously. To examine the stories we inherited and the identities we adopted, and decide which belong to us and which do not.
The most meaningful question may not be “What is my purpose?” but rather — “Who am I becoming?”
When we have the courage to live that question, purpose has a way of finding us.
The Way of Wisdom: A Woman’s Journey
New 8 day Experience Coming March 0f 2027!
I was challenged by a new teacher to both reflect on and re-evaluate my relationship to Wisdom. What I saw was that I still harbored some doubt that my wisdom was valuable, and contributed to others. As I’ve sat with the question, and the challenge, what became clear is that there is a Way of Wisdom, and A Woman’s Journey to her wisdom is unique.
At its heart, the Way of Wisdom points to a way of living rooted not merely in knowledge, achievement, or certainty — but in deep discernment, inner alignment, and embodied truth.
Wisdom is different from intelligence: intelligence gathers information;
wisdom integrates experience.
The Way of Wisdom is marked by qualities like:
- the capacity to hold paradox
- listening beneath surface noise
- humility instead of certainty
- compassion alongside truth
- reverence for timing and cycles
- learning through lived experience rather than ideology alone
- becoming more fully oneself, rather than performing identity
In many traditions, wisdom is less about “figuring life out” and more about learning how to be in relationship with mystery.
And so, along with a dear friend and talented cofacilitator/counselor, Carolyn Stanek Lucy, we bring you The Way of Wisdom, A Woman’s Journey, March 6-13, 2007. More information and registration links to come via the website shortly! Do let me know if you’d like me to hold a space for you 💜
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